have the uncomfortable conversation

so on friday i put  picture up of me pregnant with our first child, my darling girl.

we were over the moon excited for her to make her debut after a couple of years of trying we were starting to doubt if a baby was in our future.

along with the excitement, it became my catapult to finally confront my mom and make the call to talk about our past.

i didn't want there to be any "baggage" between any one if i could help it when my bundle of joy arrived. so one night when bryan was working late i said a prayer and made the call.

my mom and i were living in different states at the time,
so i called her and broke the news of my pregnancy.

she was so excited. i was a little surprised by how excited she was.

i then talked to her about our past as mother and daughter.

it was so liberating to finally get it all out.

she surprised me again by apologizing and telling me that she was so sorry.

it was our first steps that we made together towards having a healthier mother daughter relationship.

i felt lighter.
so much weight was lifted off during that two hour conversation.

since then we have had some amazing times together and some not so great times together;

but the past is the past for us and it is something we never discuss.

there is no need.

we have said all there is to be said there and i am so glad we did.

in doing this it really helped me be able to focus on that happy time in my life.
i was able to enjoy being pregnant and having my first child without having a foot in my past.

so have the uncomfortable conversation.
it will help you in more ways then you now realize.